What is Love Really?

MEANING OF LOVE

The meaning of the word love is the feeling of 'excessive attachment to someone or something'. In other words, it means the physical and spiritual love of two different sexes for each other.

WHAT IS LOVE IN PHILOSOPHY?

Being passionate about a person or thing. Love is the passionate form of love.

While the philosophers made various interpretations of love, they also determined the types of love: love of children, love of family, love of country, love of duty, love of profession, sexual love and so on. Among these, there is a specific separation from the feeling of love.

It's just sexual love. It has become a habit to define sexual love in all its forms and measures as only love. While he is subjected to positive and negative judgments of those who think about sexual love or only love, he adopts that he is stronger than other loves.

Love is humanized sexuality, a cultural environment as well as a natural setting. The emotion at the root of love is the feeling of complete devotion.

This devotion is neither benevolence nor self-sacrifice, it is simply self-abnegation. There is no absolute devotion outside of love. One only lets oneself drift in love. Accordingly, love is something that cannot be designed according to its consequences, that cannot be realized with its consequences in mind. Those who dare to love have also taken into account the unknown consequences. On the other hand, a tendency to endure, up to humiliation, manifests itself in love. There is always a tendency in love to annihilate itself and to glorify the lover.

The lover shrinks himself, or at least dares to shrink. Accordingly, slavery in love is voluntary slavery.

Love, which is a cultural environment, can only stand with values, because it is built on a dialectic of values. Accordingly, love is an environment of creativity, of creation and creation. The existence of the other, first of all, the body of the other is a cultural object for me.

Alfred de Musset says, "L'amour est tout." That is to say, love is everything.

Dante says that love moves the sun and other stars. Some see excess in love as an inevitability. According to Saint Augustine, “The measure of love is to love without measure”. For some, love is a source of pain, everything is angled in love, and happy love is unlikely.

There are also those who do not care about love, according to some, love is the job of the unemployed. Some are skeptical of him.

François de La Rochefoucauld

(1613-1680)

La Rochefoucauld says, “Love, taken with its many consequences, is more like hatred than friendship.” Others consider it a field of obscurity. Petrarch expresses this obscurity as follows: “If this is not love, what am I hearing?

If it's love, in the name of God, what can love be?

If it's good, why is its effect so harsh and deadly? If it's bad, why do these shakes sound so sweet?" Some hold that the female spirituality and the male spirituality are in separate structures, revealing different, even opposite, attitudes in love.

ON LOVE...

You've seen some important writers and philosophers think about love. The most important lesson we need to draw from this is that love has no fixed meaning. Love is one of the most unique feelings one can experience in life.

 It does not resemble any emotional state, you cannot cover it up or hide it. It is an emotion that can bring you extreme happiness and unhappiness. Everything that life offers us, good or bad, has been gathered into an emotion.

 Many of today's people think that they are in love, but it is not easy to catch this feeling. When we feel unfamiliar feelings, we feel as if we are in an important emotional state like "Love". Also, love in this category, which we call sexual love, is not very pure. Because the concept of "Love at First Sight", which we often encounter today, comes from the fact that we like the appearance of the person excessively. How can a person fall in love without having knowledge about the person himself? Is admiration for appearance only a love? I don't think so. That's why, as we get to know a person, the increasing love and devotion towards him creates what we call love. this is also what we call "healthy love". Today, admiration for another human being is about to disappear. we become more downright and unfeeling people. Because day by day, the conditions of the world push people to be egocentric and to admire themselves. Relationships built only on appearance, marriages, marriages of logic for welfare, all of these have actually moved away from healthy marriages and relationships.

ABOUT GENERAL IMPRESSIONS AND EXPERIENCES...

The biggest mistake in the general impression is that they think they are very much in love and talk about their obsessive relationships. They mistook their traumatic attachment problems for love and could never break away from that person. it's a big psychology problem and it's more common than you can imagine. This situation is even worse in Turkey, which is the country I researched. The family structure of people affects the relationships from the root and completely unhealthy human relationships are established. For this reason, important topics such as lying, cunning, betrayal are quite common. According to my research on people in other countries, there is a love style in America that does not matter much in monotonous relationships. What impressed me most is that I saw that people living in the European region experience love at other levels. they can accept many things that would never be accepted in a relationship, even the other's obsessions or even extreme situations where they enjoy each other, due to these intense and sensual feelings they have for each other. The strange thing is that the parties who accept this are generally satisfied with this situation.

EPILOGUE

So you see, love is actually a very simple and complicated thing. Its definition is in your feelings. Feel it.

Stay with love. :)

Yunus Emre Eşkin